There’s this notion that once we reach our 20s, we should have our lives planned out to the last detail.
But that’s not completely true. More often than not, our early 20s are gonna be spent struggling to find the ‘right thing’. But everyone goes about their own pace. It’s completely fine to not know what you want to do. If you’re not where you think you should be, that’s okay.
Contrary to the many success stories showcased on the media, or whatever our parents might say to make you feel bad, it’s normal to not know what to do. It’s a hard pill to swallow, that’s for sure. It’s not easy knowing that the first years of adulthood are gonna be spent confused and lost, and the best thing you can do is not beat yourself up for it.
With social media, we can see what everyone in our lives are doing, and it’s so easy to compare ourselves to what other people have achieved, but you know, whatever we see on Facebook or Instagram is inflated and curated to make it seem like they’re doing great.
And if you think you’re alone, you can rest assured that you’re not. The quarter-life crisis is so much more common than you might think. 1 in 3 millennials feel that same anxiety and depression that you do.
It’s good to keep in mind that we live in a different time than from any other generation before us. Everything is changing. The economy isn’t the same as it was in our parents’ time, we’re not guaranteed a job just because we have a degree, and we certainly can’t afford to get a place of our own.
So, it’s high time we stop holding ourselves to their standards, and how it was like in their time. Take things at a pace you’re comfortable with, life’s hard enough as it is.
Personally, when I was a kid, I thought that I’d be a successful author by now. Live off of the royalties, and never have to work a day in my life. I’m 23 now, and I still have no idea how the publishing world works nor have I finished my novel.
It took a long time for me to be okay with that, but you know, it doesn’t really matter how old I am as long as I get it done.
One of the important things to remember is that there isn’t a time limit on success, or passion.
It’s cliche, but there are more successful people in their 30s and 40s, than in their 20s. Jimmy Choo started his brand when he was 48, and Michelle Yeoh got her big break at 38. Many people figure their lives later on in their 30s when they’re financially stable.
Studies have even shown that as we get older, we’re more resilient to stress. Most people experience more positive emotions and overall satisfaction on life. So, don’t sweat it. Great careers take time.
It’s important to remember that success isn’t a race. It’s not something that you get a prize for getting there first–it’s more like a marathon. Whether you’re 21 or 34, you’ll still get to where you want. It doesn’t matter when you get it, but the fact that you get it.